vintagegal:

Nosferatu (1922)

nevver:

Tiny Painting Club
lacigreen:

**5 THINGS EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW ABOUT SLUT SHAME THIS HALLOWEEN**
1. Calling women sluts/whores/skanks is a form of sexism.When it comes to costumes, clothing, and sexual behavior, women are judged by a very different rubric than men.  When a guy has a lot of sex, he’s a stud.  If a woman behaves the same way, she’s a “whore”, “dirty”, “used up”, and doesn’t deserve to be treated with respect.  While people may use terms like “manslut” or “manwhore”, the consequences for the “manwhore” are not nearly as extreme.  People don’t see him as unworthy of respect.  He won’t be degraded, bullied, or have lies and rumors spread about him.  His reputation won’t be destroyed.  Being a “manwhore” is dismissed as him *~just being a guy~*.  
Because slut shame is a result of sexist ideas about what a woman “should” be or is allowed to do/be in the first place, women slut-shaming each other is a form of internalized sexism.  This is where a woman believes sexist things about herself and other women.  It can be very disruptive and harmful to women’s relationships with each other.  
These are some of the ways slut shame is entrenched in sexism.
2. Slut shame limits women’s freedom.Calling women names and degrading them when they *break the rules* about how a woman is SUPPOSED to dress or behave ensures that women don’t have the same freedom men do.  They are not allowed to dress or do what they like…unless they want to pay the price of being bullied or dehumanized for it.
3. Slut shame is one of the ways women compete with each other for male approval.   Slut-shaming creates a divide between women.  There are the “slutty stupid ones” with “no self respect” and there are the “proper ladies” who deserve to be treated as human.  Instead of building women up and cultivating healthy friendships, slut shame turns women against each other so that the slut-shamer can prove she’s “not like that” and therefore worthy of respect.  It puts women into harmful categories based on nothing more than how someone dresses or is perceived by others.  
4. Slut shame is a form of bullying.Girls who break outside the mold of what they are supposed to do/be sexually and are thusly labeled sluts are at a higher risk of anxiety, depression, and suicide.  There have been many suicides that started with bullying in the form of slut shame. RIP Felicia Garcia, Amanda Todd, Phoebe Prince, Hope Witsell, Stacey Rambold’s unnamed victim, and all the other young women who have tragically taken their own lives because of the heartlessness and sexism of their peers.
5. Slut shame leads to rape, sexual assault, and sexual violence.Because people see “sluts” as unworthy of respect, she is therefore not entitled to say no.  In this mentality, “sluts” become a target of harassment, assault, and even rape.  After the violence, she is then blamed for it.  After all, she was just a dumb slut….she asked for it, right?
This Halloween (and always) be a good person.  Respect women, respect their choices, and check yourself when you find yourself thinking or saying someone is a slut.  It’s a deeply held attitude about women that we all learn from our sexist culture, and it is vital that we all take the time to unlearn it.  These attitudes are more vicious and dangerous than they might appear.
xx
Laci

lacigreen:

**5 THINGS EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW ABOUT SLUT SHAME THIS HALLOWEEN**

1. Calling women sluts/whores/skanks is a form of sexism.
When it comes to costumes, clothing, and sexual behavior, women are judged by a very different rubric than men.  When a guy has a lot of sex, he’s a stud.  If a woman behaves the same way, she’s a “whore”, “dirty”, “used up”, and doesn’t deserve to be treated with respect.  While people may use terms like “manslut” or “manwhore”, the consequences for the “manwhore” are not nearly as extreme.  People don’t see him as unworthy of respect.  He won’t be degraded, bullied, or have lies and rumors spread about him.  His reputation won’t be destroyed.  Being a “manwhore” is dismissed as him *~just being a guy~*.  

Because slut shame is a result of sexist ideas about what a woman “should” be or is allowed to do/be in the first place, women slut-shaming each other is a form of internalized sexism.  This is where a woman believes sexist things about herself and other women.  It can be very disruptive and harmful to women’s relationships with each other.  

These are some of the ways slut shame is entrenched in sexism.

2. Slut shame limits women’s freedom.
Calling women names and degrading them when they *break the rules* about how a woman is SUPPOSED to dress or behave ensures that women don’t have the same freedom men do.  They are not allowed to dress or do what they like…unless they want to pay the price of being bullied or dehumanized for it.

3. Slut shame is one of the ways women compete with each other for male approval.  
Slut-shaming creates a divide between women.  There are the “slutty stupid ones” with “no self respect” and there are the “proper ladies” who deserve to be treated as human.  Instead of building women up and cultivating healthy friendships, slut shame turns women against each other so that the slut-shamer can prove she’s “not like that” and therefore worthy of respect.  It puts women into harmful categories based on nothing more than how someone dresses or is perceived by others.  

4. Slut shame is a form of bullying.
Girls who break outside the mold of what they are supposed to do/be sexually and are thusly labeled sluts are at a higher risk of anxiety, depression, and suicide.  There have been many suicides that started with bullying in the form of slut shame. RIP Felicia Garcia, Amanda Todd, Phoebe Prince, Hope Witsell, Stacey Rambold’s unnamed victim, and all the other young women who have tragically taken their own lives because of the heartlessness and sexism of their peers.

5. Slut shame leads to rape, sexual assault, and sexual violence.
Because people see “sluts” as unworthy of respect, she is therefore not entitled to say no.  In this mentality, “sluts” become a target of harassment, assault, and even rape.  After the violence, she is then blamed for it.  After all, she was just a dumb slut….she asked for it, right?

This Halloween (and always) be a good person.  Respect women, respect their choices, and check yourself when you find yourself thinking or saying someone is a slut.  It’s a deeply held attitude about women that we all learn from our sexist culture, and it is vital that we all take the time to unlearn it.  These attitudes are more vicious and dangerous than they might appear.

xx

Laci

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basilgenovese:

Vietnamese Iced Coffee (Source: The Sugar Hit)

basilgenovese:

Vietnamese Iced Coffee (Source: The Sugar Hit)

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bunsnotbombs:

"Everything you encounter is your life." - Kosho Uchiyama

bunsnotbombs:

"Everything you encounter is your life." - Kosho Uchiyama

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vintagegal:

1950s Rudolf Black tulle Cocktail Dress with rhinestone/star studded bodice and skirt  (via)

plannedparenthood:

Know the warning signs of sexual and reproductive control.

thegoodnotes:

"Hold On" by Tom Waits

Well, you build it up, you wreck it down
You burn your mansion to the ground
When there’s nothing left to keep you here
When you’re falling behind in this big blue world

gradientlair:

classicladiesofcolor:

Singer Ella Fitzgerald performing at Mr. Kelly’s nightclub, 1958.
[Christine on Flickr]

I am enthralled by this photograph. Perfection.

gradientlair:

classicladiesofcolor:

Singer Ella Fitzgerald performing at Mr. Kelly’s nightclub, 1958.

[Christine on Flickr]

I am enthralled by this photograph. Perfection.

"Read. Read anything. Read the things they say are good for you, and the things they claim are junk. You’ll find what you need to find. Just read."

— Neil Gaiman. (via ifreakinlovebooks)

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Tags: books reading

relaxable said: Hi Ben! Concerning Anita Sarkeesian, I feel really conflicted. I mean, the evidence is clear - concerning her screencap of "death threats", that twitter page, account and screenshot are all fabricated and it is so obvious. Why is the person logged out? Why is there nothing indicated in the search bar? The person has no picture, and those tweets are said person's only tweets - why? 12 seconds since the most recent tweet after the screenshot? It's scripted. It's clear that she made the account.

seananmcguire:

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itswalky:

steinpratt:

sirfrogsworth:

I am not always logged into twitter. You can view an account while logged out. My guess is that she saw the tweets on her phone and went to the nearest computer to get a screenshot. 

She went to the account’s url directly. Nothing needs to be in the search bar for that. 

Like this. 

http://i.imgur.com/ixCxltL.png

The person clearly created a throwaway account so they could harass her. They didn’t bother uploading an avatar so it went to the default twitter avatar. Usually these accounts are created using a IP address proxy so they cannot be tracked. 

Since they created the account for that singular purpose, that is why those are the only tweets. 

Clearly the person was writing all of this in a rant like state. Publishing them one after the other. It is totally within the realm of possibility that she took a screenshot in the middle of the rant, explaining the 12 second tweet. 

I’ve actually had attacks very similar to this. Where someone creates an account just to threaten and harass me.

I’ve analyzed the image she posted, compared it with what twitter looks like when logged out, and there is no manipulation. 

The only way it could be faked is if she created the account herself and screencapped the results. 

I find that highly unlikely because I have personally seen hundreds of comments, tweets, and messages of harassment and threats directed at her. Basically go into any comment thread where her videos are discussed.

She doesn’t need to fabricate these things. She has plenty of authentic samples to choose from. I can’t even imagine what her email inbox looks like. 

The part that makes it scary is that the person had her address. 

Whoever told you this did some very shoddy detective work. In my personal opinion, all of the evidence shows that it is authentic. Especially since it closely mirrors harassment I have received in the past.

I’m also a little disturbed how willing people are to blame the victim. Studies have shown that “false victimhood” is actually very rare and it is prudent to always give the person the benefit of the doubt. What if this was a real threat, the police were like, “I don’t believe you” and then something happened to her. 

Be very careful with things like this. Victim blaming can have serious consequences you may not be aware of. 

And “debunks” like this, where someone says “oh the page is clearly faked for xyz reasons,” are almost always a calculated lie. Sure, not everyone will believe you, but a LOT of people will be inclined to believe you no matter how shoddy your proof, and a lot of people will be impressed by the confidence with which you announce “it’s a fake!”

For every actual logical rebuttal like Frogman’s, there are probably ten more people who see this “proof” and become convinced Sarkeesian is lying about the whole - despite the PLETHORA of publicly visible evidence that there are people who are willing to threaten her.

If you spread the lie that Sarkeesian is faking her harassment, you are complicit in that harassment. You are aiding her harassers. Stop it.

also the moon landing was faked and obama was born in kenya

Kind of telling how many people accuse every single woman who’s been harassed and doxxed recently as having “faked it” and “done it to themselves”. 

It’s the go-to defense for folks.

It’s the socially semi-acceptable way of saying “she asked for it,” and “she brought it on her own head.”  She was too loud, she had too many opinions, she dared to exist in public; threats of violence and gendered slurs are just what she deserves.

It’s sick and it’s upsetting and it’s why so many of us spend so much time off-balance and frantically trying to find the reset button on this fucked-up social model.

yup-im-a-werewolf:

  1. if someone wanted to really understand you, what would they read, watch, and listen to?
  2. have you ever found a writer who thinks just like you? if so, who?
  3. list your fandoms and one character from each that you identify with.
  4. do you like your name? is there another name…

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paperbeast:

Another All Hallow’s Read poster! Always adored this idea and really hope it catches on. Happy haunts!

paperbeast:

Another All Hallow’s Read poster! Always adored this idea and really hope it catches on. Happy haunts!

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Vincent Price in Dragonwyck (1946)

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